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Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough (by PattySmythVEVO)

Song of the day.

Naiyak naman ako. Totoo kasi mga sinabi nya.

Hunger for President Snow’s thoughts.

President Snow (Donald Sutherland) is my most loved character. Swear!

Will I stay single until my 30th?

Few minutes ago it was my boyfriend’s special day. As I sat down and log on to my ym account, this article popped up to my face and there I re-post it. And since this is my tumblr page, I prefer using my own photo. Haha! I always think myself going thirty and still single. Hmm… What do you think?

The Single Thirtysomething Female Phenomenon

Reasons why there are more single women in their 30s than ever before.

By Olivia Yao, Three Moons | Yahoo! SHE

During our grandmothers’ generation, it was unheard of that a single woman could be happy in her thirties. At the same time, she was already deemed an “old maid.” Women were usually married by the age of sixteen or eighteen. Marrying in your twenties was considered pushing it, even. Today, however, marrying in your thirties isn’t just normal, it’s expected. If you marry in your early twenties, people assume you are either pregnant or immature and have no drive to pursue a career. How times have changed.

Independent women
“There’s a certain group of women that is very independent and mature. These women will not settle for anything less than their ideal,” says Herald Cruz, certified life coach and head of the parenting cluster of the Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM) of the Ateneo de Manila University. “It boils down to their value system which is to focus on their career. Today’s women are more empowered and aware of women’s rights. They think, ‘What men can do, we can also do.’”

A 37-year-old single woman shares, “I prayed for joy in my life and I learned enough to use my gifts to bless children and families. I designed a career that fulfills my life purpose and demonstrates values I hold dear. My career is my contribution to my community. Marriage didn’t come up, but I don’t feel any less blessed.”

“I figured out late in life what I wanted to do, and I was in a relationship at the time,” shares a 33-year-old single woman. “However, having had most of my decisions made for me by my parents when I was younger, when I finally realized what I wanted to do, I wasn’t going to let anything get in my way. So I was even willing to sacrifice my relationship because I needed to accomplish my dreams or I knew I’d regret it for the rest of my life.”

(c) Aries Cacayorin

Intimidated men
Melissa Pizaña-Cruz, Cruz’s wife of 18 years, certified life coach and co-head of the parenting cluster of the Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM) of the Ateneo de Manila University, says that some men may be intimidated by successful and powerful women. “Men want to feel that they have a significant contribution to the relationship and they don’t want to look like they’re ‘under,’” she explains.

“You are also becoming stronger and less in need of a man,” adds Cruz about empowered single women. “You can unconsciously repel or drive them away. Men get insecure, they want to be needed, they want to protect. If women give off this façade saying, ‘I don’t need you,’ it would take a real man to push through it.”

Where are the men?
According to Pizaña-Cruz, the later a woman starts looking for a husband or a boyfriend, the harder it is to find one because you’ll have less choices. “The successful men are usually in a serious relationship already,” she says. “It’s like a pyramid and the choices at the top narrow.” At the same time, she adds, “In your thirties, you’re already set in your ways. You’re more picky and you don’t really settle.”

“Maybe it’s for lack of trying?” surmises the 33-year-old woman about why she’s still single. “Or the fact that it’s hard to find a good man these days.”

“I’m not married because I didn’t have anyone I wanted to share my life with,” says the 37-year-old woman. “There is no sad love story, no boy who didn’t return my feelings or betrayed me. That’s why I don’t envy my friends who married happily ever after.”

In the end, it’s a decision you make, and the good thing is we women have more choices now than we’ve ever had. And I’m pretty sure our grandmothers not only agree but are extremely proud of how far we’ve come.

For counseling and other inquiries, contact:Center for Family Ministries (CeFaM)
Spiritual Pastoral Center
Ateneo de Manila University Campus
Loyola Heights, Quezon City

Telefax: 426-4285
Telephone: 426-4289 up to 92
E-mail: cefam@admu.edu.ph

Olivia Yao has been writing ever since she can remember. She has written for health, teen, parenting, and children’s magazines. Her latest endeavor is being a mom to her three-year-old daughter—her toughest assignment yet. Swap stories with her at threeolivias@yahoo.com..

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ac oh!

Vivian Girls - Take It As It Comes [OFFICIAL MUSIC VIDEO] (by PolyvinylRecords)

Yeah, take it as it comes.

Let’s Buy Happiness - Fast Fast (by lbhappinessuk)

Dum Dum Girls “Bhang Bhang, I’m A Burnout” live at Waterloo Records during SXSW 2011 (by WaterlooRecords)

Syet! Gusto ko maging Dum Dum girl :) ♥

Best Coast - That’s The Way Boys Are (by gingaaay)

When I’m with my guy and he watches all the pretty girls go by
Well it hurts so bad deep inside I wish that I could die
Not a word do I say I just look the other way
Cos that’s the way boys are
When he treats me rough and he acts as though he doesn’t care
Well I never tell him that he is being so unfair
Cos he loves me and I know it he is just afraid to show it
Cos that’s the way boys are
When he wants to be alone I just let him be
Cos I know that soon enough he’ll come back to me
When we have a fight and I don’t think I’ll see him anymore
But before I know it there he is standing at my door
Well I let him kiss me then cos I know he wants me back
Cos that’s the way boys are

LSE moments.